DEPEND ON YOURSELF

As humans we are always looking for the perfect match, the soul mate with whom we’ll spend the rest of our lives. It is nice to feel the safely and security of having someone to share our life experiences with, for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, rich or poor (and hopefully for the better rather than the worse). I do not think that the path of every individual is to find someone and get married forever, or that happiness depends on a person’s ability to get married and live in a marriage until the end of times. However, in a relationship of any kind, people must learn how to depend on themselves rather than to depend on their significant others. Totally depending on someone can be very harmful for the emotional, mental, and financial well-being. Dependency puts the dependent party in a very vulnerable position, especially if the dependency is a result of insecurities and is taken advantage of. Relationships should be about equals who agree to enhance each other’s lives and complement each other, rather than one person “carrying” another. Equality in a relationship is about fairness, not about percentages, though. It is fair to add value to the lives of the ones we love, but mostly, it is fair to add value to our own lives by making our lives richer and fuller and putting the best of us out there for our significant others, ourselves, and everyone else to enjoy.